In order for us to understand the way God works, we must first understand that He created mankind to be part of His family. Even in His own uniqueness, God never did anything by Himself but rather shared every moment of His glory on earth with us human beings. This nurturing nature is a strong characteristic that defines God even today. But in order to be part of His family, He requests that we obey Him and become born of His Spirit. If we are not willing to follow His footsteps, we cannot be called a child of God because we have not been born of Him. And just like we take care of our own children but are not responsible for other people’s children, God is also responsible solely for His own.
The idea that everyone is a child of God is a misconception that is widespread amongst believers. The truth is that many people confess to the existence of God but do not truly serve Him. How can they be a child of God if they have not been born of Him? They have not gone through the sacrifice of denying their own desires in order to please Him. They have not abandoned the life of sin in order to purify themselves to obtain God’s holy nature, or maybe they play by the book and do everything right in church, but inside they still think and feel like their old selves. They smile and sing but are unable to forgive, so they try to hide the pain inside.
“No one can serve two masters; for either he will hate the one and love the other, or else he will be loyal to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve God and mammon.” (Matthew 6:24)
Many people are serving themselves or other things rather than God. If the main focus of their lives is money, relationships, career, family or any other thing that is put above God, this is what becomes their lord. That is why many people’s prayers go unanswered. God is not responsible for them. Even a grudge is enough to ruin our relationship with God. His word tells us to forgive in order to be forgiven. Even if we do everything right but we are unable to forgive, we cannot be born of God because we are reluctant to obey His word. By holding a grudge, we leave a gateway open through which evil can affect our lives because we are living in hatred and disobedience. Whether we need forgiveness, or we need to forgive someone or ourselves, the truth is that if this barrier is not overcome, God cannot be responsible for us.
“For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.” (Matthew 6:14-15)
It is only when we totally surrender our old lives, will we have the experience of the new birth. The first step towards this experience is to ask for God’s forgiveness. He, in turn, asks us to forgive those who have harmed us, regardless of what it was. Letting go of our past and starting to do God’s will unconditionally is the only path towards being born of God and securing our salvation. It is a decision that happens in our mind, when we reach the conclusion that what we hold inside will bring us more loss. By letting go of our past we open up to the possibility of a blessed future.